I once shared in this blog how I encouraged my three children to speak in Tagalog, our native language. I do not have anything against those fellow Filipinos who cannot speak our language, in fact, I have Filipino friends who live in other countries who have children who cannot understand or speak Tagalog, as well as friends who live in the Philippines but have children cannot even understand the language. It may be hard to believe, but I guess this is because of certain demographics in the Philippines (I guess mostly in Manila) where children were raised to speak English as if it is their first language, hence the children’s brain are trained to think and speak in English. I totally respect parents who chose to let their kids use English as their first language, for sure they have their own reasons and one of them could be its because the parents themselves are not used in speaking Tagalog or because they prefer to use the language used in the place where they currently live. Though I totally understand the parents’ decision, I will not lie in saying that I still feel disappointed every time I encounter Filipino children especially here in Winnipeg who do not speak or understand even a single Filipino word, most especially if they were born in the Philippines.
I will admit that my children cannot fluently speak Tagalog, but I am proud to say that if you talk to them in Tagalog, they will understand you and they can somehow carry a conversation in Tagalog, they even know how to use “po” and “opo.” We do not practice our Tagalog Thursday anymore, because we talk to them in Tagalog every day of the week. They watch Filipino series with me every night, we even watch their favorite Filipino celebrities’ movies that are shown here in Winnipeg, lately they video chat with their Lolos (grandfathers) and Lolas (grandmothers) and they are able to carry out a conversation with them in Tagalog. Though, they normally talk to each other in English, my husband and I always make sure that whenever we speak to them, we speak to them using our mother tongue and require them to answer in Tagalog as well. In that case they can practice speaking the language often.
Just recently, I met someone who has been living here in Canada for more than 20 years, she was in her grade school when her family moved to Winnipeg. She could speak and understand Filipino because according to her when she was young and still lives with their parents they speak Filipino at home. She has 2 kids who are both in their teens, both her children cannot speak nor understand Filipino. According to her, she and her husband do not see the necessity for their kids to learn the language. They for sure have no plans of going back to the Philippines and they rarely visit, they feel that there’s no use for their children to learn Tagalog.
Like what I said, I respect parents like her. Each parent, has their our own ways when it comes to raising their children and they have their own reasons in letting their children do certain things. As for me, even if my children do not have any plans of living in the Philippines in the future, I will still choose to let them learn our native language.
There are researches that suggest that bilinguals are smarter, accordingly, they are better at problem solving, and they have better memories and are more skilled at multi-tasking, who would not want that for their children? My 3 children are all enrolled in a French immersion school, that being said, I can claim that they not only speak in English and Tagalog, they are also learning to speak French. But raising multilingual kids is not my only reason for making my children speak in Tagalog, it’s not just all about them becoming smart or successful, but it is more on letting them understand where their Dad and I came from.
I will not deny that I feel proud whenever someone praises my kids for speaking our mother language and looks at me with awe, I tell them that I have reasons for doing such. That is true, I have my reasons for encouraging my children to speak in Tagalog and these are the reasons why:
I want my kids to always remember that they are Filipinos. There’s no other best way to remind my children that despite becoming naturalized Canadians, they will always be Filipinos at heart and they will remain “Pinoys” forever but to encourage them to learn our native language. As I have mentioned in my Encouraging my Kids to Speak in Filipino post, my intention in making my children learn our native language is to teach them to love our home country and everything about it. By speaking the language, I want them to still remember that they should always be proud that they are Filipinos, because that is what we really are. I always tell them that leaving the Philippines for Canada doesn’t mean that we have turned our back from our home country, I am and will always be proud that I am a Filipino and I want my 3 children to also take pride that they were born by Filipino parents.
I want my kids to have good understanding of what other Filipinos around them are saying. Winnipeg is home to 56,400 Filipinos, which makes us as the third largest Filipino community in Canada by total population. It is for this reason that since 2012, Tagalog is recognized as the second-most common mother tongue in Winnipeg. With the big Filipino population it is impossible for my children not to see or meet Filipinos in most places that they will go. If they understand and speak the language it will not be difficult for them to converse with our fellow Pinoys. I always bring them to most Filipino community events that I go to, I don’t want them to be in a position where everyone around them are talking and having fun and they are left in the middle wandering how should they react or how they are able to join the conversation. Also, I’ve met a lot of Filipinos here in Winnipeg who have been here in Canada more than half of their lives and are still comfortable using Tagalog because they are not very fluent in English nor in French. I remember an incident where I have to help an older Pinay in communicating to a customer service in a government office and I felt really good after she and her husband thanked me for that small gesture, when in fact, it felt that I did that for my parents. If my parents would be in that situation, I will really appreciate if someone will do what I did. Hence, I want my children to also be able to do that in case they will be in a situation where a fellow Pinoy will need a sort of interpreter and that will not be possible if my children don’t understand and speak the language.
I want my kids to learn and understand about the Philippines and its culture.I believe that our own language not only helps us to communicate to each other, it also help us understand and appreciate our country, our culture and even our upbringing. By letting my kids learn the Filipino language, they are somehow given a form of connection with our heritage. Even they did not grow up in the Philippines they still carry with them a distinctive characteristics of a true-blooded Filipino.
I want my kids to confidently speak in Tagalog and talk to our folks and people from home. I am a self-confessed Lola’s (Grandma) girl. I grew up listening to my Lola’s stories about how she grew up, what is life like during the Japanese colony and how she and my grandfather met each other and end up together. If you’ll ask me our grandparents’ stories are the best stories to listen to. I must admit, before we visited to the Philippines in 2017, my 3 children seldom talk to my parents-in-law over the phone or through Facetime. After saying their his and hellos, they will slowly sneak out because they don’t really know how to keep the conversation. Call me crazy, but before coming to the Philippines, I specifically told them that they need to learn to speak in Tagalog if they want people back home to talk to them. While we were in the Philippines, every time my in-laws would talk to them in English, I will tell them that the kids will understand them if they speak to them in Tagalog, true enough, after almost 4 weeks of speaking to everyone in Tagalog they learned new Tagalog words and became comfortable speaking the language. The kids can now speak with their grandparents (through Facetime) even for an hour, they happily relates to their 2 pairs of Lolos and Lolas without worrying if they will understand each other’s stories.
I want my children to have a sense of belongingness and to gain friends who will really understand them. For children like mine who are growing up in a country outside the country that they are ethnically from it can be expected that they will struggle “to fit in.” Though Canada is a country that prides itself on diversity, it is unavoidable that children, especially the newly-arrived ones will feel that the cultural differences somehow set them apart from other kids, the schools greatly encourage its student to foster diversity to avoid this, but it is still an advantage if they have friends in school with whom they can share something in common. It can help them feel connected if they know that someone around them can speak the same language that they speak. Aside from that there are really certain things that are better understood when delivered in your own language. I remember how my daughter will sometimes tell me how she and her friends in school will share to one another how the ways their Filipino parents discipline them or how their moms or dads will say things in a manner that only Filipino kids would understand. Sometime they will laugh at a joke or story and they will try to explain it to their other friends but no matter how they try to explain it in English their friends cannot really get it.
Filipino Canadians, Wikipedia. Accessed June 4, 2018
Tagalog is 2nd-most common mother tongue in Winnipeg, CBC News. Accessed June 4, 2018